This week at church, Pastor J asked us to break into groups to work on sharing our “3 minute stories.” (I love being put on the spot to say something comprehensible on command. LOVE it. LIVE for it. So much that when I first suspected what he was about to do, I sweated for 5 solid minutes trying to think of a legit excuse for slipping out before the breakout session.)
But I’m glad I stayed. I had an interesting conversation with a sweet old lady in which we both learned some cool things—like how very different our salvation experiences were. She came from a Christian home and had loved Jesus as long as she could remember. Growing in her faith had been a steady, gradual journey.
Aaaaand . . . then there’s me. I’ll share my story shortly. For now, let’s just say finding Christ was a little more dramatic and my faith journey has not been a steady breeze. But it has been a journey of miracles, joys, and unimaginable distance traveled nonetheless.
This dear lady admitted to me that she hesitates to share her story because hers isn’t “dramatic” like some. With a smile, I said maybe her conversion experience wasn’t as radical as some, but I think whether you were a hard-core sinner or a cuddly toddler when you came to Christ, the daily sanctification or growing to be more like Jesus process is one of the most dramatic experiences we will ever know.
Dramatic, and for some of us, painfully slow. One faltering step at a time.
Perhaps you too have struggled with brokenness, pain, anger, addiction or other life-controlling issues and despaired of ever changing. Maybe, like me, you have felt like giving up. Please don’t do that. Hang on and let me tell you my story.
Before . . .
Because of numerous broken homes, broken people, and broken me, I grew up feeling abandoned, abused, and easily humiliated. Frequent moves as a kid meant I didn’t keep friends long. I became the oddball loner, the taunted outcast. I was the ugly girl with holey socks and high-water pants who just couldn’t seem to play the game like everyone else and turned to food for comfort, which ensured that I was both ugly and fat. Then because of added abuse and criticism at home, I went from sad kid to pissed-off teenager, finding the acceptance and approval I craved with the stoner crowd, skipping school, getting high and looking for trouble. Caught in the middle of a gang war at my high school, I dropped out and went to the local community college hoping to at least graduate. But though it was a new school, I gravitated to the same crowd. (It was hard to miss the perpetual cloud of pot smoke hovering over the center of the college cafeteria.)
And I still hated who I was. Changing schools hadn’t changed me. I became more deeply entrenched in the college drug crowd, caught in a spiral sucking me down. I couldn’t function in class because I couldn’t say no to getting high. I couldn’t break free of the pressure, the familiar. Even though I wanted an education and a shot at a future, I was failing school at sixteen and felt powerless to change. I saw a future of partying and waking up in jail, or worse—never waking up again.
I’d heard about Jesus enough to know that he died on the cross for my sins, but didn’t see what good that did me. I wanted out of the life I hated but could not escape. Hopeless, I couldn’t see my life ever changing.
Meeting Christ . . .
I remember getting stoned before class one day, then not being able to follow the lecture and wishing I wasn’t high to the point of silently begging God to sober me up. And oddly enough, my mind quickly cleared. So I began reading the Bible and discovered David talking in the Psalms about God’s presence and love and how he gave David power to succeed. I thought David was either crazy, or he really did know God. Maybe God was real. If he was as powerful and caring as David said, maybe he could help a dumb, hopeless girl like me.
One night I put God to the test by “challenging” him to take away my 5-year smoking habit. When I woke the next morning, my nicotine cravings had completely vanished. I was free of an addiction I’d failed repeatedly to kick. Not only was God real and capable of helping me, but he had answered me exactly as I’d asked. Which made me realize that not only did he want to help me, but more importantly, he wanted me to trust him. Not really knowing what it meant, I gave my life to Jesus that day.
After . . .
In all honesty (this you expect from me, right?), mine has not been a straight shot, express train to freedom, shining success, and spiritual maturity. Which is possibly because I’m bent on learning things the Hard Way. I believe God answered me in such a powerful way that day because he knew how stubborn, fearful, selfish, stubborn (I know, but it bears repeating) broken and dysfunctional I was when I came to him. He knew what a long journey this would be—a long, bumpy road filled with tripping, falling, defeat, success, depression, rebellion, and some moments of running away. He knew. And he has patiently, lovingly led me back, picked me up and encouraged me to hold onto him and keep going, time after time.
Because of the past, I have had a lot of catching up to do on the road to becoming a girl after God’s own heart. To be very honest, I’ve been tempted to give up more times than I can count. I’ve grown weary of making mistakes and disappointing people. But eventually, God taught me to be more patient and accepting of Camille—by his forgiving, patient example. Not that he wants to leave me a mess, but to encourage me to keep at it, keep getting back up, keep learning to spot the obstacles and potholes before they trip me up. He forgives me, cleanses me, showers me with mercy, empowers me by his grace, and nudges me onward to be more like him. Teaches me to share with others the boundless, unconditional grace he’s shown me. Reminds me I’m his precious daughter. One day, one step at a time. Because he loves me more than I can possibly understand this side of heaven.
I’m not where I’d like to be in this becoming more like Jesus journey. Of course, it’s not like any of us will “arrive” at any sort of perfection while here on earth, because this journey takes us all the way home. But I do find myself in awe sometimes when he invites me to stop and look back and see how far I’ve come from that hurt, angry, hopeless girl. I am not discouraged by how “long” the road has been, but rather, I am incredibly grateful for how far he’s brought me.
Yes, I still struggle with selfishness. I still fight to lay down my will and take up my cross daily. I still get easily bruised and filled with self-doubt when someone disapproves of or criticizes me, but God so faithfully pours out his love and forgiveness, and patiently keeps me focused on his promise:
Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you
WILL carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
Philippians 1:6 (emphasis mine)
I love him so much.
So—have you ever prepared your 3-Minute Testimony? If you want, you can post it here, or if you have it posted on your blog or website, feel free to share the link.
Such a wonderful testimony! I’ll admit I feel more like the older lady—very vanilla back story, as it were. 😉 But I love what you said about the sanctification/growing process being just as intense and dynamic (regardless of whether we were “good” or “bad”) because it’s not about where we’ve come from but about where He’s taking us, where He wants us to be.
Besides, head knowledge doesn’t always transfer to deep heart understanding, y’know? We don’t do what we’re supposed to. Which sometimes makes it all the MORE painful—when you know we walked into that trap of sin or deliberate disobedience, eyes wide open. Taking the wrong path can be just as demoralizing and depression-inducing as not knowing where you were supposed to go in the first place.
Thank God for his compassions, new every morning!!!!!!!! That means I have a whole new reservoir of grace ready for me. Praise God.
Thanks, Camille, for another awesome post. 🙂
Thank God for that reservoir of grace. Thanks, Emily. (& btw, vanilla is my fav!)
May God bless you as you grow in grace.
I got off to a late start too, and am still making up for it–but not looking back.
Peace like a river
RSB
I have a hard time not looking back sometimes, but in a way it’s good if it shows me what God has done, reminds me when I’m frustrated with myself that if not for the grace of God, things would have been drastically worse. So some looking back has value, as long as we’re not letting it condemn us.
Peace!
Thank you for sharing your story of meeting God’s grace in your life! God bless you!
Thanks & thanks for being here! God bless you as well!
And this is why I’ll hang with you, Camille.
Because you’re real.
And you’re not perfect.
I can’t hang with the perfect people because, well, I’m not perfect.
Surprise, I know.
But you are. 🙂 Just exactly as you are. If I’d had LOTS more space, I would have said what I told my friend Em: There’s SO much more in the “Since” side of this story – 33 yrs and it aint pretty, and yet…it’s beautiful.
God is good and he does good work. (you & I included!)
He’s so good that I absolutely without a doubt know I can trust him when nothing makes sense and his word seems confusing or contradictory and people fall short of his glory, and… bad crap happens and…
He is good, he is faithful, he is just. He is patient, forgiving, empowering. And his heart’s desire is to reconcile every one of us to him. Perfect or blemished. Jock or clutz. Beauty or bag lady. Assembled or broken. Sinner or… oh, wait, that covers it. 🙂 Love you, Beth. 🙂
This is a great story! I have never thought to put my story into three minutes, I don’t think I’ve ever limited my talking to only 3 minutes ever! 😉 Yet you have inspired me, I may just have to try writing it. My blog is about each little awareness or journey God has taken me through. There have been many years and many lessons, many slips and lots of pot! Thank you for sharing and for inspiring. I will ‘ping’ you if I ever post it. 🙂 Blessings
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